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Stop Sabotaging Santa!Published 12/27/2002

The holidays bring out the best and the worst in us. We can create delightful celebrations or real disasters. The choice is ours. And consciousness is the key. If we’re awake to the choices we make we can keep ourselves on a loving path with each step we take. If we’re not aware we may let fear and negativity control us.

Allowing tradition, habit, negative thinking or other people to dictate your every move will put you on the path to a miserable holiday season. Take this quick test to determine if you’re caught in any of these Santa-sabotaging patterns that can spoil your Christmas. Then, read on to find out how you can stop sabotaging Santa and keep the ho-ho-ho in your holidays!

Check all that apply to you:

q You tell yourself there’s no way you can get everything done that you have to do. There’s just not enough time.

q You worry about every dime you spend, telling yourself there’s not enough money either. Or, you throw caution to the wind, use your plastic and punish yourself when the bills come.

q You recall how things used to be at Christmas and how much happier you were then.

q You agree to do lots of things you won’t enjoy. Then you suffer through them.

q You repress and ignore your feelings while wearing a facade of emotionless perfection. You don’t feel sad about family members who aren’t present and you show no anger. By New Year’s Day, you may well be both depressed and sick.

q You make a martyr of yourself by doing more for others than is good for them or you — then you resent them for their lack of adequate appreciation and try to make them feel guilty.

q You schedule every moment of your time so you have none for yourself.

q You don’t tell others what you want for Christmas, imagining that if they really love you, they’ll know without your saying.

q You live in the future, worrying about what’s going to happen tomorrow so you don’t relax and enjoy the present.

q You push yourself as hard as you can, criticizing your mistakes and oversights so you can stay on top of your shortcomings.

q You wait until the last moment to prepare for Christmas Day, then rush through the process so you don’t enjoy it.

q You focus on who’s not present instead of appreciating and enjoying who is.

q You become more attached to what you get than tuned into what you give.

q You try to force other people into your idea of what they ought to do and how they ought to be.

q You become so rigid about your expectations that you forget to enjoy what actually is.

When you find yourself caught in one of these Santa Sabotaging patterns, don’t be critical. Instead, be aware that you can make different choices if you want to experience more joy and pleasure.

Consider these alternatives:

• Affirm each day that you have all the time and money you need to make this an abundantly happy Christmas. Be creative. Great gifts don’t have to cost a lot.

• Release the past with love. Be in the present and be open to the joyous future you are creating with each choice you make now.

• Be selective. Plan to do the things that please you. Say No to what you don’t enjoy.

• Express yourself. Your pleasure will be enhanced if you are also honest when you feel sad or angry, confused or disappointed. Acknowledge your feelings, express them appropriately, and then let them go. Don’t let your emotions control you. Be their master and let them serve you by keeping you tuned into the joy of being alive.

• Speak up about your wishes and desires. Listen to others. Communicate thoughtfully and considerately with those you love. Share what is closest to your heart.

• Don’t be afraid to shed tears, make suggestions, play games, try out new toys, and be a child yourself.

• Set aside quiet time for yourself each day.

• Accept and appreciate yourself.

• Set loving limits for yourself and with others.

• Allow plenty of time to prepare and enjoy doing it.

• Tune into love. Tune out fear. Experience your connection with God.

• Celebrate! Sing! Dance! Tell stories! Be silent together. These are universal acts of healing.

• Show up. Pay attention. Tell the truth without blame or judgment.

• Don’t be attached to your expectations. Let your celebrations unfold, enjoying each moment of preparation and experiencing. Be open to more joy than you might imagine!

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