You become so rigid about your expectations that you forget to enjoy what actually is.
When you find yourself caught in one of these Santa Sabotaging patterns, don’t be critical. Instead, be aware that you can make different choices if you want to experience more joy and pleasure.
Consider these alternatives:
• Affirm each day that you have all the time and money you need to make this an abundantly happy Christmas. Be creative. Great gifts don’t have to cost a lot.
• Release the past with love. Be in the present and be open to the joyous future you are creating with each choice you make now.
• Be selective. Plan to do the things that please you. Say No to what you don’t enjoy.
• Express yourself. Your pleasure will be enhanced if you are also honest when you feel sad or angry, confused or disappointed. Acknowledge your feelings, express them appropriately, and then let them go. Don’t let your emotions control you. Be their master and let them serve you by keeping you tuned into the joy of being alive.
• Speak up about your wishes and desires. Listen to others. Communicate thoughtfully and considerately with those you love. Share what is closest to your heart.
• Don’t be afraid to shed tears, make suggestions, play games, try out new toys, and be a child yourself.
• Set aside quiet time for yourself each day.
• Accept and appreciate yourself.
• Set loving limits for yourself and with others.
• Allow plenty of time to prepare and enjoy doing it.
• Tune into love. Tune out fear. Experience your connection with God.
• Celebrate! Sing! Dance! Tell stories! Be silent together. These are universal acts of healing.
• Show up. Pay attention. Tell the truth without blame or judgment.
• Don’t be attached to your expectations. Let your celebrations unfold, enjoying each moment of preparation and experiencing. Be open to more joy than you might imagine!